"Pearls" from Stan Dale

I am very lucky to have found a friend, mentor and teacher named Stan Dale (1929-2007).  Almost every thing Stan said was worth thinking about. And much of who I am is as a result of listening to Stan.  Here's a small sampling:

• Fantasies can set you free.
• There are no rules for jumping into the “new.”  No one's ever been there before.
• If not now, when?
• I know you, you're just like me.
• It all changed when I realized I'm not the only one on the planet who's scared. Everyone else is, too.
• All endings automatically equal new beginnings.
• Comfort zones are plush lined coffins. When you stay in your plush lined coffins, you die.
• Children are not horses that need to be broken.
• Welcome home to your heart.
• You can't lose your temper.
• Have your emotions, don't let your emotions have you.
• Loving yourself starts with loving yourself.
• No one can make you do anything you will not do (not even at the point of a gun).
• Our experience is not the result of our circumstances, it is the result of our thoughts about our circumstances.
• A wonderful way to wake up-kiss your partner's feet and heart. It only takes a couple of minutes.
• Awareness plus experience equals potency.
• Bless your former partners for all they have taught you.
• Love and like have nothing to do with each other.
• There is either love or violence. 
• There is no behavior called love (only loving type behavior).
• Love is not an emotion. It's a choice.
• All human behavior is either an act of love or a cry for love.
• Permission is one the most powerful psychic forces we know. When you are given permission to be intelligent, creative, or unafraid, you are far more likely to do so, than if you forge ahead on your own.
• Permission could be called encouragement or "I believe in you".
• We do not own our children. They have been entrusted to our care for the youthful period of their lives not their adult lives.
• Why let someone you don’t know, like Freud, etc. label your sexuality?
• If you want a label how about naturosexual - naturally sexual.
• Every second we each get a second chance.
• Fear is a negative fantasy.
• Most people in our culture are adrenalin addicts. Adrenalin is more powerful than heroin.
• Stop shoulding on yourself.
• You are who you think you are.  But who you think you are is not really who you are, you are much more magnificent than you think.
• The awesome power of fantasy is awesome.
• Is that thought or belief serving you?
• Are you looking for the obvious?
• Intimacy = In to Me You See
• QTIP = Quit Taking it Personally
• A man would rather jump out of a plane attached to a bit of fabric than say I love you
• Tell me you love me; that's nice. Tell me the truth and I know you love me.
• What is SEX? Sacred Energy eXchange. Spiritual Energy eXchange. Senusual Energy eXchange.
• Who said so, and why did you believe them?
• The paradox is you have to be potent to be vulnerable. And you have to be vulnerable to be potent.
• Your parents are just a little boy and a little girl who had sex one day, and nine months later you came along.
• Don't worship at the alter of your emotions.
• Every parent to child transaction (looking down shaking finger at child) will elicit a child to parent response (looking up at parent, flipping him/her off)
• Fear, the dirtiest four letter word
• Love is like the sun - it shines 24 hours a day, whether you notice it or not
• Love is the answer. What is the question?
• If love isn't your message, what is?
• If you don't go within, you'll go without.
• Violence is a cry for love.
• Please don't hold back your tears because they wash both of us clean